Obviously, I don't want to think of a child endangering her life, or our prospects, and you're quite right that we would have had to make a decision, had we known.
But the difference is that you'd want that child, and it might even cross your mind to regret the choice you'd have had to make. Or had made for you, what.
Of course, I understand what you mean--what you're trying to say. And I do see the validity of feeling that this--situation--is rather dodging a bludger. But there's something stinging nonetheless in realising that she never wanted my child, even if the timing and circumstances were far from ideal.
I never told you that we'd planned to leave and go to Grimmauld. The night before Sherwood and Ollerton, we'd both packed our things to run. But then we were sent out and--well, we changed our plans, after.
So, you see, if she'd learned or realised her condition, we would have had a choice. We could have changed our minds again. But she hasn't even considered that as an option. It's not anything that even entered her mind. Terminating the pregnancy was her only thought.
There's a difference between relieved and thankful.
Does she not want YOUR child or does she not want ANY child?
It's not as if she's exactly had a good role model for parenting.
Anyway loads of people our age don't think they ever want kids and loads of them change their minds later, it's something everyone makes jokes about in the American Witches books.
Re: Private Message to Sally-Anne
Date: 2015-02-25 05:23 am (UTC)Obviously, I don't want to think of a child endangering her life, or our prospects, and you're quite right that we would have had to make a decision, had we known.
But the difference is that you'd want that child, and it might even cross your mind to regret the choice you'd have had to make. Or had made for you, what.
Of course, I understand what you mean--what you're trying to say. And I do see the validity of feeling that this--situation--is rather dodging a bludger. But there's something stinging nonetheless in realising that she never wanted my child, even if the timing and circumstances were far from ideal.
I never told you that we'd planned to leave and go to Grimmauld. The night before Sherwood and Ollerton, we'd both packed our things to run. But then we were sent out and--well, we changed our plans, after.
So, you see, if she'd learned or realised her condition, we would have had a choice. We could have changed our minds again. But she hasn't even considered that as an option. It's not anything that even entered her mind. Terminating the pregnancy was her only thought.
There's a difference between relieved and thankful.
Re: Private Message to Sally-Anne
Date: 2015-02-25 05:52 am (UTC)It's not as if she's exactly had a good role model for parenting.
Anyway loads of people our age don't think they ever want kids and loads of them change their minds later, it's something everyone makes jokes about in the American Witches books.