It doesn't change how I feel about her, what. If we live to be a hundred and never have children, that's a fair trade, as far as I'm concerned.
It's more that I didn't want her to think I'm still cross with her. If I ever was truly cross, and not just upset or...yes, grieving. Stung, was the word I used.
And I do understand how difficult it is for her to see the good that might come from having a child. I think she was only seeing the things that can go wrong, what. One does, of course, and you've a good point about your families. But it's utterly laughable to think she and I would produce another Bellatrix, or even another Narcissa Malfoy. Not that we'd be perfect parents, what, but--she's far too good a person to treat her child with any abusiveness. I'm not sure how to convince her of that, but as you say, now is not the time.
It's true we never would have chosen this moment to start a family, if we'd had the choice. So it is 'for the best' that choice was made for us. I do try to remember that, as well.
And things could be much worse, what. Loads of people never find the kind of happiness we've had, despite the horrid circumstances in which we have it.
If...if your friend had turned out to--that is, if it had turned out to be your son, and not another's, would you have.... I say, was that before you and Remus realised how you felt about each other? If you don't mind my asking.
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Re: Private Message to Justin
Date: 2015-05-01 03:21 pm (UTC)It doesn't change how I feel about her, what. If we live to be a hundred and never have children, that's a fair trade, as far as I'm concerned.
It's more that I didn't want her to think I'm still cross with her. If I ever was truly cross, and not just upset or...yes, grieving. Stung, was the word I used.
And I do understand how difficult it is for her to see the good that might come from having a child. I think she was only seeing the things that can go wrong, what. One does, of course, and you've a good point about your families. But it's utterly laughable to think she and I would produce another Bellatrix, or even another Narcissa Malfoy. Not that we'd be perfect parents, what, but--she's far too good a person to treat her child with any abusiveness. I'm not sure how to convince her of that, but as you say, now is not the time.
It's true we never would have chosen this moment to start a family, if we'd had the choice. So it is 'for the best' that choice was made for us. I do try to remember that, as well.
And things could be much worse, what. Loads of people never find the kind of happiness we've had, despite the horrid circumstances in which we have it.
If...if your friend had turned out to--that is, if it had turned out to be your son, and not another's, would you have.... I say, was that before you and Remus realised how you felt about each other? If you don't mind my asking.
-J